Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Deleted!

I took a huge step today and have decided to delete my facebook account! Yes, I will delete my account. I'm not taking time off, like I have before, I deleted the whole thing. WHY, you ask? I'd love to share my reasons, and they are many, with you!
First, I'd like to say, I'm most certainly NOT trying to start a movement, convince you to delete your page or convict you of anything. This is something that I feel I need to do to better myself and better manage the way I spend my time. I am...was...a facebook addict. I literally hop on and check status updates, pictures, etc...multiple times a day, multiple, as in more than 1, 2 or 6! I'm sure you're wondering why not just limit myself to once a day, take some time off, etc...? I just don't see the benefit of facebook for me right now, so I'd rather just be off it completely..for good!
I've been thinking about this since I read this blog post on Sunday. I've been debating within my ownself if facebook is something that is beneficial to me, and I just don't think it is. I don't think it's something un-beneficial, but I can't see any benefit in it, and therefore no reason to keep it open and having it available to lure me in and drain my time. Time that could better be spent building relationships...real-life, live relationships!
Relationship... this is the word that has been going over and over in my mind as I've been debating shutting it down. One of my biggest struggles lately has been the dissapointment in lack of time to build relationships. I've had more than a few conversations with friends lately, where I've been sharing this struggle and saying, "there's just not enough time in my day to make the calls I want to make, to connect with the friends I want to connect with", yet I manage to spend most of my boys nap times checking in on facebook. And when I say checking in on facebook, I'm not really building and fostering relationships with people. I'm looking at pictures of people I've not even TALKED to since becoming their "friend", in fact, the people I chat with/talk to mostly on facebook, are those who I see on a regular basis.
Make no mistake, facebook has been a great way for me to become reaquainted with people from my past. High School classmates, old church friends, and friends from all 3 of my colleges, and that has been great. But my hope is that I will be able to continue with those people I truely reconnected with and can foster those relationships in other more real ways, more personal ways, and more in-depth ways.
If you are someone who I've reconnected with because of facebook, I really hope you'll keep in contact with me. I'm really not a hard person to get in touch with. My e-mail is tonyagray813@gmail.com. You can always call me, you probably have my number somewhere. And of course, I have this blog, where you can keep up on all things Grays!
I have a feeling this will be more of a struggle than I think, but for me, I think it will be truely beneficial...I hope so, because it will be really embarrassing to request you all as my friends again!

3 comments:

Lori Lynn said...

I'm a little impressed. I don't think I have the guts to delete mine. ;) But you can keep up with me on my blog!! I'll still post all the pictures and baby updates and junk. And I'll keep reading yours too!!!

mrs.gray said...

Once again, you make me so proud of you Tonya! For having the courage of your convictions! You are a wonderful, no, I mean WONDERFUL daughter-in-law....for so many reasons!!!

Robin Whitted said...

very impressive!!! You are such a good writer so keep updating this blog! I love to read it! :) Maybe one day this summer I can bring the kids swimming on a Friday and we can connect! :)